and now, an orginal poem

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and now, an orginal poem

if you just look, by joe somodi

let these words be your spark
let them light you up to see
to see the more that is your life
a life of abundance
a life of purpose
a life of meaning

do you want to go deeper?
do want to suck the marrow out of this life?

{click inside to read or listen to the rest of the poem}

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Alice the Maid says, "It's time to do some mental house cleaning!"

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Alice the Maid says, "It's time to do some mental house cleaning!"

{This will take about 8 min to read or you can click here to listen to the podcast}

You probably already know that your mind is busy.  Some of you might even admit it is pure chaos up there. (Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?)  But this is not new news to you.  No, the news headline should read:

BUSY MIND CREATES MORE STRESS THEN WHAT REALLY EXISTS

or

CLEAR MIND RELIEVES STRESS AND BRINGS ABUNDANT PEACE

But you likely won't see those in today's news.

Your desire for a clear and calm mind might be hampered by not knowing the steps that will guide you there.  Is it time for you to clean house upstairs but you're unsure where to begin?  Read on for the rest of the real story.

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       {This post will take about 10 minutes to read or you can listen to an audio recording  HERE }    "Once I altered my perspective, my confidence increased significantly.  It no longer mattered what other people thought because I was done punishing myself for something that was out of my control."   The above quote came from Krista Kay, a 6ft, 6-inch women, who is featured this season on TLC's My Giant Life.   (You can read all about her triumphant story in her interview with my amazing blogger friend Cathy Holman: http://prairiewifeinheels.com/prairie-wife-week-krista-kay-tlcs-giant-life/)   Just think about the oodles of inner work she had to do to find peace for "what is" when it came to being so tall so young in life.  Let her journey inspire us to explore together the teachings of surrender.  Surrender is a worthy concept to contemplate.  Why?  The opposite ain't so sexy:   fighting with the present moment  over-efforting  body tension  emotionally unstable...(just to name a few.)     You don't choose not to surrender.  Resistance just sorta happens.  Our lack of letting go may be rooted in unconscious patterns of reaction and a foggy/inaccurate perception of ourselves.  With practice, you can retrain and reframe your lens on life for greater clarity, calm and freedom.    You ready for a mental workout?  Let's get to it!  So to begin, I need you to recall, in detail, a time when you were in the space of resistance.  When was the last time you found yourself fighting against the "what is," (raw reality) much like Krista Kay?    Helpful Brainstorms:   traffic jams  long lines in public  moody boss  peoples behavior or body odor  nasty weather  sudden illness or physical injury to you or a loved one   Any of these ring true for you?   "The best way to predict your future is to create it."   President Lincoln  So much of what you want to achieve in life can be obtained through the power of imaginary.  Scientific research reaffirms its high level of effectiveness, but it's an underused skill.   Studies confirm your imagination enhances muscle memory, motor skills, and motivation, so it makes sense to take this approach for enriching your inner life.  Instead of using imagery to achieve external desires, we are are going to use it to gain internal desires like peace, calm, clarity, and steadiness - all things you acquire when you fully surrender.     "Surrender is the inner transition from resistance to acceptance, from no to yes."  Eckhart Tolle   Now, go back to that moment you recalled when it was hard for you to surrender. Visualize that situation.  See the past unfolding inside your mind.  (Close your eyes and take your time.)  You have arrived when the experience becomes apart of your muscles, nerves, and breath.  All three of these will shift into the old resistance you were feeling in that moment.    Now, see the situation unfolding sans resistance.  If it's the "idiot driver" you meet daily on your commute, then imagine a different reality of what it looks like to surrender.  This will take time.  No need to rush.  Helpful questions:   Where does the physical tension get dissolved? (relax my grip on the steering wheel)  How does the breath feel when you remain calm and steady?  (breathing deep and smooth in and out from my belly)  What thoughts come to your mind?  ("they must be having a bad day," "maybe they didn't see me" "I'm glad we are both still safe.")   But, don't stop there.  Allow your creativity to flow.  Once you have a new picture and experience, replay the positive reaction/feeling over and over again.  That is the mental weightlifting.  And nope, it's not easy.  This won't come on the first rep.  It will take time to see it so vividly that it becomes embedded into the body/mind.  Remember, you need to own this new view.  This is what the athletes do, and it works!  This is what I do when it comes to forgetting peoples names, and it works!  I just have to surrender and ask you your name for the tenth time. (grin)   "When you surrender to what is and so become fully present, the past ceases to have any power."  Eckhart Tolle  But here is the big takeaway:  You are LEARNING how to shake yourself loose of this habit and rigid viewpoint, so surrender becomes your first impulse the next time around.  The key word here is LEARN.  You need not be stuck!  Your lens on life, in your space of resistance, can be seen and re-experience from another vantage point.  The more often you loosen your grip on YOUR way of seeing the world (hello there ego!), I can declare with confidence that you will be happier and freer.  Since this isn't an "easy 5 step process" you might hear yourself saying, "hey, that is just the way I am! I hate idiot drivers! Case closed!"  What this thinking invites is a point of view that could fester deeper into other areas of your life.  All moments matter.  All thoughts matter.  If you share this belief, then you will know that it's worth retraining the mind to lift the fog so you can see your life with 20/20 vision.  This inner change needs to unfold in real-time, so patience is key.   "If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live those moments more richly."   Anne Morrow Lindbergh  I think Krista Kay would agree with Anne's words!  Once she altered her perspective on being above average in height, she regained her confidence, and I know, so will you.  Share below and let me know what aspect of surrender you are working on so I can help. 

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"Once I altered my perspective, my confidence increased significantly.  It no longer mattered what other people thought because I was done punishing myself for something that was out of my control."

The above quote came from Krista Kay, a 6ft, 6-inch women, who is featured this season on TLC's My Giant Life.  (You can read all about her triumphant story in her interview with my amazing blogger friend Cathy Holman: http://prairiewifeinheels.com/prairie-wife-week-krista-kay-tlcs-giant-life/)  Just think about the oodles of inner work she had to do to find peace for "what is" when it came to being so tall so young in life.  Let her journey inspire us to explore together the teachings of surrender.

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Rosebuds Have a lot to Teach Us

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Rosebuds Have a lot to Teach Us

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may
Robert Herrick, 1591 - 1674

The echoes of this famous line have been reverberating in my mind.  The words feel like a gentle reminder of the value of time, a call to take action and to do what you can to make the most of the gift that is life.

Here is the rest of the stanza:

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying;
And this same flower that smiles today,
Tomorrow will be dying.

In other words, "THIS is it."  No matter what, this moment is IT; this moment IS the gift.  Are you aware of this and if so, how often?   

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How to Live the Plan Life Has for You

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How to Live the Plan Life Has for You

Desai writes "I am That"...but what is That?

If I am not a label ("an artist, husband, healthy"), then what am I?

The "changeless"?  "The present"?  The "witness"?  

 

How is that possible?  How vital is it that I live through this lens?   How could living from the witness bring less pain and more joy into my life?

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I Have A Gut Feeling You'll Like This

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I Have A Gut Feeling You'll Like This

Years ago, I was restless and had hit a roadblock in my life.  I was no longer content living in New York City. 

With no alternative plan, I started to ask for guidance.  Not from outside sources, but from inside.  I held space during my practice for deep listening.  I asked specific questions and waited for my intuition to guide me.  

Nothing happened right away.  

 

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Life on Edge (Part 2)

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Life on Edge (Part 2)

Last weeks Wednesday Wisdom message was about the nervous system.  This part of your body is so vital for health and happiness that I want to offer five lesser known practical ways for you to harness control and build a positive relationship to this system.

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Life on Edge (Part 1)

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Life on Edge (Part 1)

Let's begin this week with a little, unscientific experiment...

Extend one of your arms out, so it's parallel to the floor.  Keep the arm and fingers lengthened but not tense.  Leave the arm suspended there for about 15 seconds.  Like a curious scientist, observe what is happening.  Do you notice any shaking or quivering in the fingers or any shaking in the arm?  

If you not over caffeinated, sleep deprived, physical tense or have a busy mind, you likely won't see too much movement.  This simple experiment can shed light on how agitated your peripheral nervous system is.

Your nervous system, which is part of your inner world, is an excellent indicator of your overall health.  If you are not sensitive to how it's processing your outer world, how can it help you?  

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Take More Cold Showers

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Take More Cold Showers

I believe the greatest challenge of our time is learning from discomfort. 

To make life more tolerable, to get through tougher moments, we tend to seek out "discomfort dissolvers."  These choices often make the small and large stressor manageable.  They bring us to a more stable frame of mind.  We rarely make time to question these choices, but would we become more awake and abundant if we choose to resist and sit in the discomfort? Would those moments uncover more fruit if we theoretically took more cold showers?

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Drunk With the Divine

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Drunk With the Divine

The mind is either your friend or your worst enemy.  You either are aware of what it is doing to shape your life, or you are left feeling victimized by its every little whim.  The mind is either taking you closer to joy and fulfillment or towards sustained pain and suffering.  Pause and reflect for a moment, do you know which is true for you? 

 

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